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09 February PromisesLast night, I saw the Japanese movie "Ten promises with my doggy".
I'm sure I'm the one who is keen on dogs, and what's more, I'm fond of cute little girls.
   I've got a feeling of fast heartbeat, for the lovely doggy and the cute girl, but what's really important is the trust and love between them.
Then I was deeply impressed by the parents of MINGLI, the girl. It gives me the instructions on how to be a good and kind parent:
Spend time to stay with your children, listen to them, talk to them, share with them, love and care about them,
never look down upon them but praise and encourage them, trust them,
help them and create the opportunities and environments for their development.
Treat them like your friends and you are equal.
Remember you are the very example for your kids.
I'd say those are the promises you should always keep in mind and stick to for a lifetime!
You should better commit yourself to those tips.
In facet, take a sincerely attitude with the people around you as long as they are the ones you like and cherish. 09 December Moods and Reflections1. Sometimes bad things happen to people, you can either become sad or you can keep on appreciating life in an enlightened way.
2. I believe that throughout the universe we meet many wonderful and unique individuals, each travelling on their path to happiness, insight and knowledge.
3. Teaching, as I see it, is no easy job, unless you never intend to be a qualified and conscientious one.
4.SAY U NEVER--taken from the movie If you are the one
It’s already time all should be closing, and I, a silly Billy, knew it would be all stupid though. The call on the morning once again assured the thought that I’ve ever held and the situation in which I’ve ever been. But it turned out to be a pain in the chest. Why pain? For I went out of the way to keep a solid friendship? That's ridiculous!!! It really is weird to understand and judge human emotions and feelings, or rather, the way one looks at the situations and then figure out the most joyous means of consolation. Self-centered is the very word. Vulnerable/Delicate/Pretentive naturalness/Mean--Damned them all!
The following was written on Feb. 12:
Felt this spring fest totally different and depressing.
It was a holiday for the people like me who are college staff and usually enjoy their holidays and salaries without any worries and obsessions. Ever since I was conscious of who I was, the SPRING FEST had always been a great occasion, on which I could wear new smart clothes, enjoy tasty home-made foods, let off firecrackers and get extra money. What's more important, I could stay with my parents. But now, it's all different. I intend to make up some excuses for this change and I actually did, but all this sounds like bullshit. Yeah, I've got my family in which I gotta put my heart and energy, too much i think was wasted and neglected my closest family. Excuses. Seems no way out. What a fool! GOOD FOR NOTHING! Who's more important? What really counts? You should have the keys in heart. 02 September Me Generation Shifts to UsMe generation finally focuses on us By Erik Nilsson (China Daily) Youngsters think nothing of spending their money in nightclubs. clubzone.cn
They've been notoriously self-centered in the past but the Beijing Olympics showed the '80s children are coming of age.
Most of their elders call China's balinghou (post-'80s generation) selfish, apathetic and materialistic.
Like many people her age, 19-year-old Cao Si from Hunan doesn't like the stereotype. Still, she admits: "It's kind of true."
Cao puts it this way: "If someone from my generation gets two apples, they will eat them. If someone from my mother's generation gets two apples, they will save them both to give to their children."
The point is, either way the balinghou end up with both apples - and believing they deserve them.
China's "Me Generation" was born after the 1979 adoption of the one-child policy and was hyperactively doted on, leading to the "little emperor" and "little princess" syndromes. They then came of age during the country's opening-up and economic miracle.Such forces have thrust wedges between China's youth and their elders that have stretched the generation gap into a generation gulf.
"Our generation believes we should live easily in this world," Cao says. That means spending money on fun and luxuries - fashionable clothes, magazines, nights out - never dreamed of by their impoverished elders.
"If I earn 100 yuan ($14), maybe I'll save 40 and spend 60. If my mother earns 100 yuan, maybe she'll spend 40 and save 60."
Spendthrift consumption is all the easier for the younger generation since they haven't earned the cash, explains 22-year-old Guangzhou student Zhong Jinfeng.
"Many people born after the '80s and '90s don't have to go to work," he says. "They just spend their parents' money because they don't know how hard it is to make."
As 51-year-old Xu Yihe says: "This generation has been more protected by their parents and enjoyed more material comforts."
But China's 20-somethings are getting a harsh wake-up call as they're pushed from their coddling families into the real world, a transition 23-year-old news agency editor Zuo Yuanfeng calls "a hard journey".
Many of the altruistic Olympic volunteers are of the post-'80s generation. Xu Jingxing China's rat race is being accelerated by market reforms, increased university enrollment, fewer jobs and the growth of the younger-than-29 demographic, which currently accounts for about 45 percent of the population, according to the National Bureau of Statistics (NBS). "It's too fast, and every day we must face competition if we want to have a good life," Cao says. NBS estimates suggest that by 2015, the number of Chinese younger than 30 will surge by 61 percent to 500 million people - more than the current population of the entire European Union.
As 19-year-old Zhang Rong points out, the pressure is compounded by parents' expectations that their only children will care for them after retirement.
"In my family, there are only three people but in my mom's family, there were a lot of brothers and sisters, so if one could get a job, they could feed them all," the student from the Inner Mongolia autonomous region says.
"So I have to consider how much money I must earn to support my family every month."
China's National Committee on Ageing estimates the country will have more than 174 million residents older than 60 by 2010, most of whom will be cared for by only children.Many balinghou say the fact they've had it easier than their elders doesn't mean they've had it easy.
"It's a challenge - the pressure - and with globalization, so many new things are emerging, so the younger generation has had to do a lot to both absorb these and protect themselves from these," Zuo says.
Some resent the perception that their lives are cushy, as portrayed in popular TV series, such as Fen Dou (Starting From Scratch), which follows the lives of seven friends in their 20s. "Everyone who's not balinghou thinks that's what balinghou are like but our lives aren't like that," says a 24-year-old Beijing Youth Daily editor, who would only give her surname, Xie.
The series' scriptwriter, 49-year-old Shi Kang, says he tries to avoid perpetuating stereotypes, and Fen Dou is more about youth in general than balinghou in particular.
"I appreciate many of the balinghou's traits: They're ambitious, aggressive and very capable," he says.
Xie still believes the series sends out the wrong message. "We really know what Fen Dou (also translated as 'working hard') is about," she insists.
"Our lives aren't as tough as our parents' have been but it's not that different. Mostly, the type of difficulties we have are different."
And sometimes such dissimilarities lead to intergenerational clashes.
"We don't understand each other on many issues and I have found myself avoiding communication with the older generation, even at work," Zuo says.
However, he says that both generations often work to figure out what makes the other tick.
"The younger generation is trying to learn to be more mature and courteous, while the older generation, like my father and mother, is trying to have a younger mind."
Zuo says the biggest difference in the way he would raise his child would be to provide "more choices and the confidence to be themselves".
"I don't care if they are different from the mainstream, if they are minorities or are homosexual or bisexual," he says.
But many balinghou are quick to point out the generation gap they encounter isn't only between them and their seniors.
Because of the speed of change in China, they often have trouble understanding the mindset of their juniors, the jiulinghou (post-'90s generation).
"Their ideas about society, family, responsibility to family are so different," Xie says.
"They'll make themselves comfortable first, and then, if it's convenient, they'll make others comfortable. If balinghou did this, we would feel a little guilty."
She says she recently took a multigenerational delegation on an all-expenses-paid trip to the United Kingdom. The jiulinghou complained about staying in the same five-star hotel every day. Then, when they did switch hotels, Xie says the jiulinghou complained the new one wasn't as nice as the first.
When they complained about being served burgers rather than pizza, a balinghou organizer scolded them.
Zhong also says he has trouble relating to the jiulinghou, and even some balinghou who are two or three years his junior, especially on sex.
"Sex is much more casual for people who are younger than me," Zhong says. "I think love is more important than sex, and I think the younger generation is more open with it and just doesn't care."
But balinghou are also divided among themselves on romantic relationships. "My generation is so used to dating they think of it like having meals," Zuo says. "My father and mother think of dating like getting married."
Xu says that if couples were to even walk hand in hand until the '80s, "people would point fingers", but "today, people kiss in the streets".
He also says many older people began reassessing the balinghou after seeing their "enthusiasm and patriotism" following the Sichuan earthquake. He recalls once seeing a group of 20-somethings in a Beijing street - one was tearful - with donation boxes and a banner reading: "We were born after the 1980s. Can you trust us?"
He says he had "mixed feelings" about their motivations.
Cao believes the very breakneck speed of transformation that created such a generation chasm can also help people overcome them.
"China is a developing country," she says, "and we will continue to accept more and more new things all of the time."
(China Daily 08/27/2008 page18)
30 July A lonely hikerI do not want what I haven t got ----by O'connor Sinead
I'm walking through the desert
And I am not frightened although it's hot I have all that I requested And I do not want what I haven't got I have learned this from my mother See how happy she has made me I will take this road much further Though I know not where it takes me I have water for my journey I have bread and I have wine No longer will I be hungry For the bread of life is mine I saw a navy blue bird I walked on and I learned later That this navy blue bird was me I returned a paler blue bird And this is the advice they gave me "You must not try to be too pure You must fly closer to the sea" So I'm walking through the desert And I am not frightened although it's hot I have all that I requested And I do not want what I haven't got I am a lonely hiker in a cold desert... I am worn out... 28 July Time to goI feel lost,
It feels like the freezing winter although it is hot now in July.
The Olympics is around the cornor, the ID card has been issued, the list of part of the staff has been printed and it is almost the time to go.
However, my heart is still lingering around here.
I am not sure if I am doing what I should be doing, cos I feel like an idiot, an outsider and a failure.
Inactive as I am, it seems that they treat me in a different way.
I feel tired, of the Games, of the simple boring routines and of myself too.
I feel disappointed with what I have done...
When I recall the meeting with my colleagues the week before last, I felt and feel embarrassed. In their eyes, I am not a member of their entity now. They came here for their happy trips paid by our college, but they didn't even mention it to me. In their eyes, I am far far away from their circle now. In their eyes, I could see their untrustfulness and even envy. They came, they stayed and they left within such a brief spell...that's what they think. I feel kicked off.
However, that's a shit I would not care about, I believe I will go back and make efforts to fulfil my duties both here and back home.
However, what makes me lost and upset most is the indifference.
As I always believe in and insist on, I desire for a sort of true consolation and peace, but I do not want to have more, just a little bit of them. Thus, I am true to my friend, and try to do all I can to make friend happy, but the fact usually goes against me. The more sincere I am, the more pressure I am causing and the more indifferent my pal would like to choose to be. Good intentions may create bad endings.
Peace and warmth, aren't they nothing but luxuries?
I feel totally lost...
27 July EastwardOne station after another, west to east, near to afar, time after time, struggle by struggle,
I got myself crystal with these stations. In the crowded, stuffy and smelly subway, I do not feel annoyed, quite the other way, I feel easy, relaxed and peaceful, cos I know where I am heading for and what I am doing now. Every time on board the subway, I have a heart of hope.
I do not fear the distance, but I do fear the cold.
I do not mind the distance on my route, but I do mind the distance on the mind.
Things often change and people can't help transforming,
It all has to be approaching an end, rather similar to my trip back home after the happy hours are over.
Eastward is filled with expectancy, but westward is full of sadness,
although everything true has been done and every effort has been made...
Many sayings go,
All that glitters is not always gold,
All that looks smart turns out to be fragile.
What did I do wrong?
Upset and frustrated are the words that I choose to describe how I feel now.
Feel like weeping. 26 July DilemmaIn one's life, there exist all sorts of shitty obstacles and complex situations which put one in big trouble,
I'm at present facing a real dilemma which seems no way out for me, but I have to make a choice.
Therefore, I have to think about it all, have to make a hard choice...
忠孝难两全
熊掌和鱼不可兼得
老妈和老婆不可两救
金钱和时间不能两顾
智慧和美貌难以双有
......
It's painful. Too much pressure on my heart.
Alternative? Decision? Confusion? Failure? Would u just give me a break? A little time to think?
I'm almost on the verge of collapse... 24 July EcstacyEcstacy, ecstacy, ecstatic, ecstaticism...
I've been here for over three months already. Although it is such a new working environment, I've been accustomed to it all, and even adjusted just right! On weekdays I am usually busy with my assigenments with no time to think of anything else. However, weekends seem a total horror, so much so that I feel kind of real loss. I didn't use to be worried about and give a damn to loneliness at all for all the time I have passed. It turned out that deep in my weak heart, I am as delicate and isolated as my old self. I sometimes find some chores to fill in my emptiness, but whilst handling those things, my mind is still in tension. Friends or classmates in the fucking city, what in the world are they doing? Loneliness? Isolation? Helplessness? Confusion?...Mixing up... A man who never be defeated by nothingness is now being tortured by mindsickness. Don't know why? I wonder about some matters and some people--what I've been fed up with is what I should actually undertake here? Is it true that I tried everything to crteat a close tie with whom I truly value just out of loneliness?
My id shakes head. What the hell? Where's the superego? It appears in a drifting way and reckons for me, smiling, saying, "Hi, man, you're great, cool, though, but most important, you are too pure and simple, but you shall be true to what you value..." Yep! It suddenly occurred to me... that it all proves to be metamorphosis or even nirvana????? No, definitely--sure I say. The moment I attended that evening arrangement meeting, I felt a little bit different about it. The first impression was keen. And with the time, until finally I adventured to aquire the english addressee, I felt I've been on the way to gradual comfort and excitement. But wait, the point should be made clear--I am not at all evilly or selfishly intended! I can seriously swear! What I've got from the relation is true mental warmth and comfort. I do not need sympathy. I do not intend to desire. What? Do I bring joy or dissatisfaction or just trouble? I keeping asking myself... "A Grace person", which I intensely adore, fully describes the keen personality and potentials and charm. Am I awfully emotional or foolish, thus resulting in just withdraws. -- if that's so, it goes right! Anyway, I do cherish the luck and the chat, cos it gave me the rare chance to talk and exchange with the person in some common! It is commonness and sharing that makes friendship. How lucky I am to get a pal like that! I really wanna do something in return for the chance that I was granted. However, on the other side--Am I offensive? Am I insane? Anyway, I attach great importance to the rare friendship, and accordingly I truly wish to do all I can to make sure my pals are in happiness, with all of it not to be forced upon either side. Peace of mind... Possiblly? Is it a luxury? If happiness comes along with no disturbance, I'll surely stay much away... If happiness goes hand in hand with ease and resonance, I do wish to hold it tight.
...Such a coward...What nuts! What a messy life I am living and I have been going through. Time will tell what should be told.
And time kills when no resolution is worked out. It's more like the feeling of taking ecstacy . . . 22 July Places of Interests in BJI was lucky to have a total easy tour around some well-known scenic spots in BJ.
Yonghe Lama Temple
The Taihe Palace, Qianaingmen, in the Forbidden City
The Guard Statue of "Pixiu" on Jinbao St. “貔貅”，镇宅、辟邪、招财、祈福。 18 July An Unforgetable NightIn this unfamiliar and unintimate world, life in here proves definitely unusual.
An uncommon being is doomed to meet and get acquainted with another uncommon being. When they meet, commonness, as the timeclock clicks, gradually grows stronger and stronger. It's not the luck but the lucency that falls down upon whatever the uncommonness intended to be. It's the sense of sharing that counts and also the sharing that enhances the minds and the winds. Here it goes, when Prince Caspian's sharp and hesitant eyes catches the Queen's sure and vigilant eyes, all in that moment, the whole inside bursts like the volcanoes.
Centuries apart, though, nothing's gonna possibly stop the advance of time and affection.
In the Night, a busy night, but a quiet mind, and a peaceful atmosphere,
Let it be, let it be as gentle as the spring breeze in the summer night; Let it grow, let it grow as strong as the summer sunshine in the winter day; Let it turn into the heart of everything natural, innocent, unique, and whatever the like, With no disguise, pretense, hypocrisy, worldiness, regretfulness, or depression. Transiency fades away, but permanency of heartbeat is here sound to stay! It's like the touching tune--THE CALL (Regina Spektor) It started out as a feeling Which then grew into a hope Which then turned into a quiet thought Which then turned into a quiet word And then that word grew louder and louder 'Til it was a battle cry I'll come back When you call me No need to say goodbye Just because everything's changing Doesn't mean it's never been this way before All you can do is try to know who your friends are As you head off to the war Pick a star on the dark horizon And follow the light You'll come back when it's over No need to say goodbye You'll come back when it's over No need to say goodbye Now we're back to the beginning It's just a feeling and no one knows yet But just because they can't feel it too Doesn't mean that you have to forget Let your memories grow stronger and stronger 'Til they're before your eyes You'll come back When they call you No need to say goodbye You'll come back When they call you No need to say goodbye |
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